BOMRAD SOC R. ABONADO AND GEMNOE RAMOS

Something Blue

After 8 years of being married through civil wedding ceremony, my husband and I finally decided to have our church wedding. Just like any other wedding story, it is really every woman’s dream to be able to walk down the aisle wearing her beautiful wedding gown while her future husband waits for her in the altar.

It was a bright sunny day in December, and I caught myself teary-eyed when the door of my dream wedding church finally opened. I slowly started walking the aisle smiling, nervous, and emotional to see my husband of 8 years wiping his tears from afar while waiting for me at the altar. There was this old saying about wedding day that goes “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue”. I made sure that this was all present on my special day, and my “something blue” was no other than my royal blue wedding gown. My wedding gown was so special to me because it was my husband’s idea a couple of years ago. It was just a random conversation of ours on Facebook messenger when he sent me a photo of a woman wearing a royal blue wedding gown telling me that he wanted me to have that kind of wedding gown concept too. From that moment, I saved the photo and told myself that one day when we will finally have our church wedding, that will be the color and the design that I will have.

The blue wedding gown represents my appreciation for my husband because not all men would give this kind of suggestion to their wife or future wife for their wedding.

And since it was still in the midst of the pandemic, we had

our only daughter as our flower girl and at the same time as our ring bearer on that day. The three of us wore “something blue” during our church wedding ceremony. My female entourage agreed not to wear a gown but rather they all wore an all-white pantsuit and our groomsmen wore an all-black suit. We did not require our guests for a dress code, we wanted them to celebrate with us by being comfortable on their attire. So we had some few family members and closest friends who opted wearing jeans and we wholeheartedly welcomed them.

My husband and I came from a very conservative and traditional family so to be candid about it, there were several members in our family who did not agree with our plan for my wedding gown. I was so silent with the reason behind the plan and only shared it with my trusted friends. Before the wedding day, I asked permission to our

priest about it and I am even more grateful that he supported our plan. During our wedding reception, that was the time that I shared to our family and guests about the person who inspired me to wear my blue wedding gown and it was no other than my husband. I think the most important detail that we considered significant in our celebration is when we finally were able to exchange our vows and “I do’s” as Roman Catholics in front of God as the primary witness of our relationship. It took us almost 8 years, but I know it was worth waiting because we really prayed so hard for that day to come and to see our family, closest friends and God present as we celebrate our love for each other.